gift for your child…..

gift for childrenRuchi and Samarth are away to Mumbai. Guess I am feeling a little lonely, obviously missing them. Usually weekends are time for togetherness and even if you do not do too much, the act of the entire family being around is so soothing and a great stress buster. 

Free time permits one the luxury to reflect upon things that you really care for but may not have been able to give enough attention for a variety of reasons. Your hobbies – or the apparent lack of them, old friendships, relationships you really want to preserve and enrich. The thought of parent – child relationship crossed my mind, have been thinking about it for a while and seems like a good moment to shape it further.  

Children grow up very fast. Each stage of their growing up is a supreme treat to enjoy. Initially they need you and depend upon you for practically every single one of their requirements. You walk them around, play, read and write with them, watch children movies, tell stories. But pretty soon they begin to have a mind of their own and quickly outgrow the need for your company, supervision and guidance. The dependence goes down, even if you do not want it to happen, and a very unique individual begins to blossom.

The conversation at family gatherings invariably centres around how the children of today – in the 11+ age group -behave and conduct themselves. Independent, arrogant, do not listen to anyone, sleep late get up later, less respectful, intelligent, smart, little focus on studies, time wasters etc etc. External influences, social groups (friends as well as usual Facebook type networks) and their own peers seem to have a far deeper impact than any other parental or family counseling. 

The generation gap begins to open up, so much so that it becomes pretty tough to strike a conversation beyond a single digit number of minutes. Given the environment and the rapid change that is being forced upon all of us – children and parents alike – the question is of the nature of interactions to be had. What should you make the child learn, what should the messaging be, what should you provide to the child. Net net what is the most ideal gift for the child? I understand this is an endless topic and there can be as many answers as there are people, let me attempt to pen down a few of my thoughts.

The most significant one is the gift of time. Spending as much time as possible, finding areas of common interest that help creation of a special bond. Children are carefree and fun loving and therefore indulging in such acts with a sense of humour is a huge deal. The early years of the child are also some of the most crucial for your  career. The temptation therefore is strong to manage career leaving all else for later. But you will soon realise – and there are many examples around each one of us – later does not exist at all in this matter.  Not creating a bond at every stage leads to a void that, regretfully, can never be filled.

The other one is of inculcating a value system. It is almost impossible to control likes and dislikes or their mind. Or even who they interact with. Hence a relentless focus on imparting values will keep them grounded and provide them the strength of character so required to fight the bigger battles of life later on. Being respectful, humble, sensitive and caring, truthful, honest, having determination – whatever can make them a good human. The significance of a strong value orientation can hardly be under-estimated, they guide all our actions.  

The only other one I wish to mention is the relationship between the parents. Parents are the two most important persons for the child. Visible demonstrable signs of love and respect amongst the parents helps to provide an environment of peace, stability, security and an immense sense of comfort for the child.

Can you discover similarities with the environment at your workplace? Often there are strong parallels and always interesting to give it a thought.

Will be great to get your opinions and views! 

happy gifting!!

rs

5 thoughts on “gift for your child…..

  1. Rajiv,

    Needless to say, all your writings have been very pertinent in today’s world, this one becomes more applicable and I have personally experienced its importance in the last two years. I am cetain, each and evey person would or would have come to realise the signifacne of such relationships and values.

    Regards.
    Sree.

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  3. Excellent topic to blog on. It strikes a chord within straightaway. As very succinctly captured by you, the best gift is to spend quality time with kids at each stage of their growing up. And importantly, we should keep it simple. Simple, in the sense, the intent and desire should be to enhance the yearning in them to spend quality time and quality conversation with parents. And the desire should be as natural and effortless as possible. I know that with changing times and their tastes, it becomes increasingly difficult but all of us look forward to and feed on professional challenges, how about this one ? I am pretty sure that through these meaningful conversations, most of us will be able to transition the value system which we have inherited from our parents and are so proud of.

  4. Well I love the part where the parents need to show and exercise compatability amongst themselves to create that kind of comfort level in a child for a healthy growth. a family is olso an organisation with a lot of emotional attachment due to which the growth of the same is a concentrated effort by the family as a whole. The learnings provided to each new member in the family is provided by leaders of the family (Parents/ grand parents) and also by peer members of the family.
    I think in the corporate world also the principle is the same although the emotional attachment might not be the same due to the sheer size. The young ones coming into an organisation also look up to their leaders and the environment they have created.

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